Guys out there..
here's some tips for you guys.
1. All the things that help us become better, more complete human beings, like yoga, or meditation, or sports, or any spiritual interest you may have, all have one thing in common. They are all focused on quieting the mind, quieting thought, quieting the whole imperfect intellectual computer-like process. This is because we have become over-conditioned and reliant on thought: taught and rewarded to have very active, busy, comparing, competitive minds. But to really enjoy and experience life, we have to undo all this and learn to listen to others, to ourselves without judgment. When we speak to someone, we re always judging: do we agree or don t we agree. But if we are either agreeing or disagreeing, then we re not listening, for to listen there must be an openness, an innocence, a putting away of the old ideas so that the fresh ones can come in. We wonder why we learned so well and so quickly as children: that is why. So when you listen, all you need is an openness, and an innocence, and a passionate mind.
2. Do you know what passion is? It s root is from the Latin word for abandonment. Passion is giving up oneself, abandonment, and only then can you find the things you re looking for love, learning, and most importantly yourself. When was the last time you really let yourself go and just merged with something in that way?
3. THIS IS ONE OF MY FAVORITES: You can t look for or find or hold or keep love. It comes and goes; either it s here (sp) or it’s not. So what do you do if you want love, and yet the more you seek it, the harder it is to find. What you can do is to leave open a window so that the breeze of love, the freshness and newness of it, may come in. If a window is open, the breeze may still not blow in; there is no guarantee. There is, however, one thing that is absolutely guaranteed: if the window is not open, the breeze will not blow in. [AGAIN, OPTIONAL, IF YOU WANT TO CONTINUE FOR *CLOSE; IT'S NEW, SO I'VE ONLY FIELD TESTED THIS PART ONCE. NOT QUITE AS ELOQUENTLY, BUT IT WORKED: Love comes and goes, sometimes for a minute and sometimes for a lifetime. It is out of our control, but we do know that when we do feel it, it is a great thing to feel, to enjoy, and to savor. And a lot of times we let it pass by, because we are conditioned by society to fear love, because it makes us vulnerable. Right now, in this minute, I do truly love you. I might not a minute from now, but right now I do and I am not scared. Because I know that love is an energy between two people that bypasses completely all logical thought. *CLOSE AND THEN SAY. Wasn t that a beautiful thing? This is because love is timeless. It does not live in time. It does not either live in memories of the past or anticipation of the future, but only in the living moment, which is eternity to me. Love lives when time dies.]
4. BF DESTROYER: What we ordinarily call love is just fear and pleasure. Love only blooms when you let go of fear and expectation. When someone says to you I love you, and they expect you to say I love you back, love in that case is a demand, it s an obligation. Saying I love you means I expect attention from you. And if you don t, if you look at another person, I become jealous. Love is not a demand or a reciprocal trade agreement. So if someone makes a demand and calls it love, what they re really interested in is not you, but themselves, their pleasure, their experience, that ego. If I say I love you and I expect you to be any other way than you actually are, am I loving you, or am I just making expectations and demands? If a person loves you when you please him and hates you when you don t, how can that be love? That person is just in love with their own expectations of how they want you to be; they re not relating with you, the real you, at all. Love is wild. It only lives and thrives in freedom. You can t keep it trapped in a greenhouse and cultivate it. You have to let it run free, and trust it to let it run free, because if you don t, you kill it. Most of what we call love is simply fear fear of someone leaving us, fear of being alone, fear of no longer being codependent. Love does not bloom under fear. Love is an energy, not a word. Love is an energy that lives in relationship, which seeks no return and has no opposite. I know that a lot of my friends lately have been asking themselves lately, Am I really truly in love in the true sense of the word, with all my needs fulfilled and no one trying to change me, or am I with someone who is just filling a role. OPTIONAL: GO FROM HERE INTO LOVE *CLOSE PATTERN ABOVE.
5. I don t want to be childish, I want to be childlike. Here, love comes easy because conditioning and habit haven t set in yet, which is what makes this so much harder for an adult, because their minds rust with thought, knowledge, memory, experience, and authority. Just let go of that, and be childlike and innocent and explore and enjoy.
I have about five or six more of these bits. Most of the rest have more to do with sexuality, and they’re pretty good. Let me know what you think of these, and if you want the rest.
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